Create your own success mould!

Mould and success – what do they have in common?

A while back, I used to think there must be something wrong with me and that I should change if a guy doesn’t like me. But that’s a load of bollocks. Never change to try and fit a mould someone else has created. This thought came to me as I realised just how much I have grown since writing  ‘3 lessons my hilariously awkward dating life taught me about property’. 

It is the same the other way round, we have to stop trying to make someone else fit a mould we want them to be … This may appear like I’m going off tangent but this is important.

A lot of us, myself included, try to change people. We want them to be more organised, more motivated to do XYZ. We create this personality of how they should act and behave – essentially what we want them to be like.

Cain, face palm, rat race, mould
Trying to get them to become more organised and motivated is a bust!

Then, when people don’t want to squeeze into this perfect mould we have created for them “We. Get. Pissed” – Ladies, you know exactly what I mean.

We have to let each other be. If people don’t want to squeeze into our perfect mould, we have to let it go. We have to accept and love them exactly as they are.  If we can’t, then maybe that relationship is not meant to be.

Potential mould ingredients

Rather than working on other people. We need to work on ourselves. Create your own personality. A personality you love. A personality you admire. Then, if you wish, work on yourself to become the inner person you admire. If you aren’t sure what I’m talking about here are some potential personality ingredients for your mould.

Potential mould ingredients table


Charitable Positive Forgiving Happy


Kind Risk Free Fearless



Addiction-free Decisive Focused


Driven Funny Caring Friendly


Supportive Encouraging Practical Finisher



Now here’s the crazy secret. By creating and becoming your own mould, you will attract other people with similar characteristics to yourself. If you don’t like what you are attracting then get back to the design board and create a better personality traits for yourself. If you want to attract successful people, work out the mould that successful people have and redesign your own to fit.

Creating your own mould is exactly like creating a guideline for the minimum return on investment (RoI) you want. Don’t let your emotional ties to a property make you lower your standards of what RoI you are willing to accept. In a similar way don’t hold onto people who continually make you feel guilty or abuse your good nature.

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